Ms. Not Good Enough will now Analyze Your Marriage
Just in time for Valentine’s Day, the New York Times Magazine has an article by Lori Gottlieb, titled;
Does a More Equal Marriage Mean Less Sex?
The question mark in the title is rather pointless, because she spends the rest of the article trying to convince her readers, that is indeed the case. If Gottlieb’s name sounds familiar it is because she recently penned a whiny screed for the opinion pages pf the Times about losing her insurance coverage due to the Affordable Care Act.
In her latest article Ms. Gottlieb, theorizes that women are not turned on by husbands who help with womanly household chores, such couples have less sex than the couples where men only do manly chores. I wonder what these manly chores entail? Chopping wood? Who knew that being bone tired after doing all the cooking and cleaning is a great aphrodisiac.
According to the only study that Gottlieb cites, men who do manly chores and their wives have sex ten times a month as compared to 8.5, which is the average for couples who split household chores. If you ask me, ten times a month hardly qualifies as hot and heavy. She points to the commercial success of Fifty Shades of Grey, as additional evidence. Dubious logic is dubious.
Taken to its logical conclusion, this would imply that women who belong to fundamentalist sects that enforce strict gender roles must be having the best time in the sack! This could be the topic of Ms. Gottlieb’s new column. After extolling the virtues of settling for Mr. Good Enough and performing all of the “womanly” household chores, it would be a natural progression for Gottlieb who calls herself a feminist.
Update : I just read a NYT blog post, that had an interview of Gottlieb.
She thinks she is being edgy and provocative but in what way is the advice she dishes out different than someone from the Victorian era. Haven’t women been told told since time immemorial to get married and have kids when they are young, be dutiful wives, shoulder all the responsibility to keep the home and hearth inviting and keep their husbands happy without expecting anything in return? Tired tropes do not become provocative just because they are dressed up in psychobabble by a media savvy huckster, who despite all her advice about settling for Mr. Good does not seem to be married herself.